Healing Journey Self Focus

Hey y’all, let’s talk about something real—that comparison game.

This week been rough, for real. I caught myself lookin’ at everybody else’s life, feelin’ like I’m behind. Like they out here sprintin’ and I’m just tryna keep my head above water. It’s wild how easy it is to fall into that trap—scrollin’, watchin’, thinkin’, “Why not me? Why ain’t I there yet?”

But lemme tell y’all somethin’ I’m learnin—everybody got they own lane. We all movin’ through life at our own pace, and it ain’t no race. Just ‘cause somebody else hittin’ milestones don’t mean I’m less than. My journey is mine, and it’s gon’ look different. And that’s okay.

I had to sit with myself and ask, “Why you stressin’ over what they doin’? Why you actin’ like your blessings ain’t enough?” That’s when it hit me: I been lettin’ outside noise distract me from my own growth. I’m over here countin’ somebody else’s wins and not even seein’ my own. That’s crazy, right?

So, I’m refocusing. Takin’ my eyes off other folks’ lanes and puttin’ that energy back into mine. Celebratin’ my small wins, remindin’ myself how far I done come. Y’all, healing ain’t linear, and it definitely ain’t easy. But it’s necessary.

If you feelin’ like this too, lemme tell you—you ain’t alone. Stop beatin’ yourself up for not bein’ “there” yet, wherever “there” is. Focus on where YOU at, and keep movin’ forward. Your time comin’. Just don’t forget, your lane is yours for a reason. Trust it, honor it, and stay grounded in who you are.

We all gon’ get there—one step at a time.

Keep pushin’. Keep healin’. And most importantly, keep stayin’ in your lane. You got this.